“I don’t understand,” Margaret lamented. “I know I used to be a part of the team, and then I was promoted to manager of the team. It’s different, these used to be my friends. We used to do favors for each other, cover each other’s shift when we had a family emergency. Now, it feels disconnected. I feel disconnected.”
“Your role has changed. What else changed when that changed?” I asked.
“Now, I have to tell them what to do. I have to make decisions on priorities. I have to dictate the method and the sequence of the work. I have a bigger job, now,” she said, making a face that showed she was not happy.
“Where does the disconnection come from?” I wanted to know.
“I think everyone thinks I am bossy, when it’s just my job,” she replied.
“Is it really? You are certainly accountable for the output of the team. But, is it your job to be bossy? Look, you have worked with this team for a long time. Do they know how to get the work done? Do they know what tools to use and how to use those tools? And, more. Do you trust them in those things?”
“Of course, I trust them. I have worked with most of them for more than two years,” she counted.
“Then, what would be your most valuable contribution to the team as their manager? What value could you bring to the table. They know the routine, they know the methods, they know the materials, they can make the easy decisions and solve the easy problems without you. What value can you bring to the team?”