“Like I said, I will ask them about the way they see themselves in their role on the team,” responded Julia. We had been talking about her new management position.
“And what if you don’t like what you hear?” I asked.
That was a hard question. Julia started her sentence twice before completing it. “I just have to keep digging. Somewhere in there is a small starting point. Somewhere in there is a small place where we can agree.”
“Is that the point of intersection we were talking about?”
“Yes.” Julia was on a roll. “And I have to find it before we can go on. Sometimes you have to go slow before you can go fast. Until I make that connection, until I find that point of intersection, we are not going anywhere in the conversation.”
“And what do you think happens between the two of you when you find that point of intersection?”
“It’s like a little piece of magic. We get something we can build on and move forward with. Until we find that common ground, all we have are differences. You cannot build on differences.”