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Object in Motion

“You make it seem like I got promoted to manager was just happenchance,” Roberta said.

“In many ways, your appointment was just because you were standing in the right place at the right time, call it luck,” I replied. “But, luck alone will not sustain you as a manager. You now have the authority to make decisions and solve problems the way you would have them solved, but that does not mean you have the team behind you.”

Roberta turned pensive. “You mean, I might tell the team to do something in a certain way, or at a certain time, and the team might push back?”

“Most assuredly,” I smiled. “The bane of every manager is that the team almost always pushes back. It’s not necessarily out of malice. Or that the team thinks you are a dolt. Most pushback occurs because the team has its own way, its own methods, it own habits that are difficult to break.”

“So, just because I am the manager does not mean it’s my turn and I get my way?” Roberta asked, not as a question, but a statement of reality.

I answered anyway, nodding. “I think you get the picture. Your way may be the best way, but you are fighting momentum, object in motion stays in motion. It is your role to interrogate current methods, gather new methods and solicit input, so you can guide the team to the best decision. It is cumbersome in the short run, but the only way in the long run. If you force the short game, your term as a manager is already on the rocks.”

How to Deal with Pushback

“So, Julia, you are in this conversation, looking for common ground. What if the team member isn’t giving you anything to work with?”

“Impossible,” Julia responded. “Unless, they are stiff arming me.”

Julia was a new manager on a team with nine men and two women. I was anticipating some pushback from some of the vets. This was not going to be easy.

“What do you mean, stiff arming?” I asked

“Sometimes, egos come in to play. They think they have to act tough in front of their co-workers, be uncooperative with the new boss. Maybe if they stiff arm me long enough, I will get fired. But it’s only a pretense. It’s just a game. I have to draw them out of the game and into the conversation.”

“What does that sound like?” I pushed.

“I usually start with fact-based questions. I stay away from opinions and judgments in the beginning. In these fact-based questions, I am looking to build up the tiniest bit of trust. It’s pretty simple, really. I ask a question. They respond. Nothing bad happens. I ask another question. They respond. Nothing bad happens. And the questions are easy

Tell me about your job? What do you do? Where do you get the materials? What machines do you use? On a good day, how many units do you produce?

“After a few minutes, the pretense goes away,” Julia continued. “I have drawn them into the conversation by asking them fact-based questions. It may not be a deep conversation, but at least they are out of the ego game.”