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Disabling the Team

“I’m stuck,” Remi flatly stated. “When I was first promoted to manager, things were okay. I could sit in my office, get my work done, the team knew what to do already. You know, do the same thing as yesterday.”

“Sounds like a cush job,” I replied.

“But, then, people started stopping by with a question here and a question there. Still not too bad, but then the floodgates opened. Sometimes, there is a line outside my door with people needing an answer, more direction, solving a problem. It’s a constant stream of distraction.”

“Why do you think your team has come to depend on you for answers to their biggest unsolvable problems?” I asked.

Remi shrugged her shoulders. “You got me?” she said.

“No, your team has you,” I smiled. “In a few short weeks, you have trained your team to bring all their unsolvable and solvable problems to you. And you were happy to help. We are always happy to help. But, what did you train them to do?”

“I get it,” Remi shook her head. “But, I’m the leader. I’m supposed to support my team. But, they seem to need support for everything.”

“Yes, you are the leader. But, the best form of leadership is self-leadership, and you have, by your good intentions, stripped that away from them. In a way, you have disabled your team from thinking for themselves.”

“So, what am I supposed to do? Not help?”

“The most effective managers are not those who tell people what to do. The most effective managers are those who ask the most effective questions.”

Counter-Intuitive Response

In the sport of snow skiing, control is achieved by counter-intuitive thinking. As speed increases, and the skier becomes “out of control,” conventional thinking causes the skier to lean backwards. This disastrous response moves the front edges of the skis off of the snow creating less control and increasing speed. The counter-intuitive response is to shift the body-weight forward, creating leverage on the front edges of the skis, giving the skier the ability to turn out of the fall line, resulting in skier control and a decrease of speed.

I see many managers attempt to gain “control” of their teams using force, command and control, threat of firing. Those of us with children know the futility of these efforts. The counter intuitive response is to ask questions instead of telling, to ask for commitment instead of demanding. It takes more time, requires more patience and has a longer lasting impact. Sometimes it even works with children.