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Who Do You Hang With?

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“Why are you here?” I asked.

Ethan paused, sensing his response could not be casual. He knew I would only ask a more probing question. “I have to provide for my family,” he finally replied.

“But, you could do that with most any job,” I predictably prodded. “Why are you here? At this place? At this time?”

“I don’t know, it just sort of happened. A friend told me I could get a job here and things worked out. I started on the floor seven years ago, was promoted to supervisor, and here I am now, just promoted to manager.”

“Why don’t you leave?” I wanted to know.

Ethan took another pause. “Over time, I got used to working with these people. They’re my best friends. Sometimes, I think I spend more time with them than I do my family. Heck, they are like my family. I have an investment in the other people I work with.”

“You are getting closer,” I suggested. “How does that understanding serve you, as a manager?”

The Feeling of Family

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“So, you want your team to feel like a family, at least an extended family?” I asked.

Andre was thoughtful. “You have heard the expression, familiarity breeds contempt? That is the behavior I see. Petty grievances. Subtle discord. You would think that, as a family, they would get along better and, in turn, be more productive. I want them to work together, collaborate, support each other, you know, real teamwork.”

“All, noble ideas. But, could there be a paradox? Could it be, that effective group collaboration, teamwork, does not stem from a feeling of family, but rather a clear recognition of individual team members, each with individual accountability in clearly defined working relationships? Could it be structure that creates the feeling, not the feeling that creates the structure?”