“I don’t think it’s me,” Marion repeated.
“You are angry at the person who gave you the negative feedback and you would like to ignore the feedback,” I confirmed.
“Besides, even it were true about me, I can’t change, that’s just not me. I couldn’t do it. Out of the question. I don’t see how anyone could do that.”
I looked at Marion. Without a word. Silence.
“But if you could change, what would you do first?” I asked. -TF
The mind is an amazing tool, but if you continually say the word “can’t”, then you certainly “won’t”.
I think the whole idea of performance feedbacks are useless. I have given many feedbacks to people and I have been very biased. So I speak of personal experience. It can have detrimental effects on people’s job and personality and should be avoided.