“Tell me, Muriel, when your solution was challenged, how did you respond?” I asked.
“It’s pretty simple,” she replied. “I gave them the answer to the problem, but they worked in a different direction. They went directly against what I told them to do. I had to pull them together, find out who the ringleader was. You know, I have to find out who was bucking my authority.”
“Do you think the team believed in your solution?”
Muriel paused. “Does it really matter? I’m the manager. If I had the solution to the problem, they should implement it. It doesn’t matter if they believed in my solution.”
“Let’s play this out,” I prompted. “If they didn’t believe in your solution, but you forced them to implement it, how much energy and enthusiasm did they pour in your direction to prove you right? Or did they appear to follow your direction, without enthusiasm to prove you wrong? Either way, you still had a fight on your hands. Did that serve you? Did that serve the team? Did that serve the solution to the problem?”
“But!!” Muriel protested.
“No, buts,” I interrupted. “When you were part of the team, as an equal team member, how did you work together?”
“Well, back then, it was collaborative, we worked together to solve problems.”
“So, what changed when you became the manager?”