From the Ask Tom mailbag:
Question:
I need your advice. Yesterday, my manager called me in and shouted at me for a mistake I made in an Excel spreadsheet. He berated me to the point where I just felt sad. I felt so sad, in a way, that I couldn’t bear to be with the company any longer and asked to resign. I stated the reason was the unprofessional behavior of my manager. At the exit interview, they seemed not to care. What should I have done instead to help them realize that working under those circumstances is not healthy?
Response:
It took courage to make your decision. Write this down, for it will guide you in the future.
You stand for what you tolerate.
You made a decision that you would not tolerate being bullied. You made a decision that you will be treated with dignity and respect even when you make a mistake. Remember this lesson as you grow through life, for some day, you will be in a position to hold someone else accountable for their mistake. Remember how you were treated and the result.
If you want someone to resign from their job, then treat them poorly.
However, if you want someone to understand their mistake and correct the circumstances so that it is less likely to happen again, then treat them with dignity and respect.
As you search for your new job, hold your head high and ask questions about the culture of the company. You have learned a lesson on the kind of organization you will seek out in the future. -TF