Roy was pensive. “You mean, you think, that my team only resists my ideas when I tell them they are wrong?”

I looked at Roy. “I don’t know. What could you do differently to test that?”

“How can you test it, if they really are wrong?” Roy challenged.

“Let’s assume they ARE wrong,” I matched. “In what way can we move them toward your idea without telling them they are wrong?”

“Oh, you want me to coddle them,” Roy pushed back. “I’m sorry, that’s not me.”

“I don’t want you to coddle them. I want you to challenge them, with the same energy you are showing me, now. In what way can we challenge their thinking without telling them they are wrong?”