“I am still uncomfortable with confrontation,” Lauren explained. “There is a knot in the middle of my stomach.”
“How long have you felt this way?”
“About a week,” she said. “He is not doing his best. I saw that. I only started to feel uncomfortable when I knew I had to say something to him.”
“So, your stomach is your guidepost?”
“What do you mean?” she asked.
“Your stomach is a valuable detector. Here is one thing for certain. If your stomach is upside down, it is likely you are dealing with a real issue. If your stomach feels fine, you can be assured you are avoiding the real issue.”
Lauren felt fine until the point of confrontation. While she observed underperformance, she was fine as long as she avoided the issue. Your stomach is a valuable detector. What issues are you avoiding?
I just found your blog – it is very interesting. It is so often the case that people avoid dealing with the real issue. I look forward to reading more of your blogs and discovering about your perspective on working with management issues.