“It was strange and yet so simple,” said Karyn. We were debriefing a conversation she had, to patch up a shouting match the previous Saturday.

“I just asked her questions,” she continued. “At first, all I got was silence, but it finally came down to this. The reason she was leaving early on Saturday was that her babysitter couldn’t watch her kid all the way to 5:00 o’clock. When she was told to come to work on Saturday, she was afraid to tell the weekday supervisor, and she just hoped no one noticed. Rather than say, no, she planned to just sneak out early.

“So, how did you solve her problem?” I baited.

“You know, I know better than that. I can’t solve her problem. I just asked her questions.

“I asked how many days in advance she needed to know when she had to work a Saturday. She said one week.

“I asked her how she was going to communicate that to her weekday supervisor. She said she would work up the courage and tell her. (I did offer to set up a meeting with her supervisor so she couldn’t back out.)

“I asked her what would happen if her supervisor asked her to work Saturday with less than one week’s notice. She said she would have to muster up the courage to say -no- unless she could make arrangements.

“You know, it’s funny. She suffers from the same thing I do. She over promises. Then gets in trouble when she can’t deliver. We both promised each other that we stop over promising.”

“Sounds like quite an agreement. Keep me updated on how this works out.” -TF