Erwin wasn’t leaving until I told him. We had been talking about managers and accountability. We had talked about fear and the manager avoiding the accountability conversation. “We have to overcome this fear,” I said. “If we don’t overcome this fear, the manager will stay put, frozen, and nothing will change. The team member will continue to underperform and the manager will remain miserable.

“Look, Erwin, most managers don’t understand the purpose for this accountability conversation. Most managers believe they have to perform some psychological magic on the team member, put them in a trance and return them to work as a perfect performer. By the way, that never happens.

“While the manager has the authority to put the team member into a trance (by virtue of being the boss) they have no power to do so. The manager has no magic. The only person who can make the change is the team member.

“You asked how my accountability model works. That’s how it works. It transfers the responsibility for change from the manager to the team member. As soon as the manager understands there is no magic and understands the weight of this conversation is on the shoulders of the team member, the fear begins to go away.” -TF