Category Archives: Coaching Skills

Showing Up

Most people don’t know that I am a championship ice skater.

At least I will be, if you agree to be my coach. As my coach, you have many responsibilities, this is the first.

Woody Allen says that half of making progress in life is just “showing up.” The first responsibility of any coach is to make sure team members show up. I cannot get better unless you show up for practice. So, if you are going to be my coach and turn me into a championship ice skater, your first responsibility is to make sure I show up for practice.

How is your team showing up for practice?

We have two scholarships available for next week’s (Aug 17) kickoff at Working Leadership Online. Coaching Performance – Time Span and Highest Capability. If you would like one, please respond to Ask Tom.

Coaching Highest Capability

You see the person relax. You know they are capable of more. But they stop, take a break, coast. Compared to their peers, head and shoulders above. So they get head and shoulders above and put it in neutral. You are the manager.

How can you bring this person to a higher plane of performance?

A skill is made of two things. There is a technical knowledge piece. That’s the stuff we go to school for. That is what is taught in textbooks. And it is necessary.

The other piece is most often overlooked, and that is practice. Technical knowledge and practiced performance make a skill. What is your role as a manager, as a coach, in making that happen?

In our coaching series in Working Leadership Online, so far this summer, we have looked at

  • Coaching – Bringing Value as a Manager
  • Coaching Underperformance – Time Span and the Employee Contract

We finish the series, kicking off next Monday, August 17.

  • Coaching Performance – Time Span and Highest Capability

We have reserved ten invitations for a free scholarship. If you would like to receive an invitation, please respond to Ask Tom.

How To Get the Most

In a week’s time, July 27, Working Leadership Online begins the second in our summer coaching series, Coaching – The Employee Contract and Underperformance. This is perhaps the toughest conversation a manager has to have.

We are offering (10) scholarships to the program. If you are interested in this online program, please reply to [Ask Tom]. First come first served.

I am updating the Orientation to the program, here is a short clip of “How to get the most from this program.”

Learn by doing. This program is not designed as a lecture series. This program is NOT about how much I know. This program is about you. We have developed specific elements to be completed in your working environment. That’s why we called it Working Leadership.

The Goal is NOT to read a bunch of stuff. The Goal is NOT to simply complete assignments. The Goal is to create new habits, habits that are discovered, habits that become a part of who you are, as a manager.

We have created a learning community. Each person in Working Leadership is committed to pushing themselves to a higher level. I know, because this program makes you think. If you are reading this, then you are part of that group with the desire to learn. If you are not that kind of person, well, what’s the point? You aren’t reading this anyway. -TF

Trumping Hope

“You made the promotion decision. Is that when things began to unravel?” I asked.

Joann looked pensive. Her head slowly nodding. “Yes. So, the problem appears to be an underperforming manager, but the cause of the problem is me?”

“You made the decision. Now, you are living with the result.”

“But, I had hoped this person could make the grade,” she explained.

“And you were hoping you could hang this situation on someone else. Hoping no one would discover your decision.” I could see the blood draining from Joann’s face. “So, what are you going to do?”

“I am going to have to eat some crow,” Joann relented. “I have to take responsibility for the decision. And the first person I have to talk to is the person I promoted.”

Over-promoting someone to a position significantly beyond their capability is a frequent mistake, yet the accountability rarely lands on the person who makes the promotion decision. Often, it ends with a messy termination and no winners.

All of this distraught could have been avoided by testing the candidate prior to the promotion. Testing the internal candidate, with delegated Time Span appropriate tasks, and observing their behavior, in the heat of reality, trumps hope every time.

Bringing Value as a Manager

Rafael chuckled. “Alright, so the first step is to identify the problem. When my team asks for help, instead of me, giving the answer, I should ask them to clearly describe the problem.”

I was trying to stay out of the way, trying not to lead the witness. “Yes?”

“And the second step,” Rafael continued. “The second step, but the problem is, sometimes you can’t go to the second step. Because sometimes, the problem isn’t the problem. I mean, sometimes, the problem is only a symptom. You have to figure out what is causing the problem. That’s the key, the cause of the problem.”

“Write that down. What is the cause of the problem?”

“Once you have the cause of the problem, then it gets easy. There are usually a half dozen ways to fix the cause of the problem, you just pick the best one.”

“Let me get this down,” I said.

  • Identify the problem?
  • Identify the cause of the problem?
  • Identify alternative solutions?
  • Pick the best solution?

Rafael now has a genuine and helpful response for his team. Using these four steps, he can influence the process the team uses to solve problems. This process is easy to remember and very teachable. And if consistently used, the team will, over time, solve their current problems and exchange them for more and more complex problems. This process is one of two powerful coaching methods we will use next week in Coaching – Bringing Value as a Manager in Working Leadership Online.

Coaching for the Solution

“Watch what my mind thinks?” Rafael mused. “Okay, how do we do that?”

“What’s the purpose here?” I asked. “If we know the purpose, we can figure out what we need to do.”

“Well, the purpose is to create a different response, I can make, when my team asks me to solve a problem. The response has to be helpful, like a coach. You want me to step through how I would solve a problem and then teach it to them,” Rafael stopped, and smiled.

“As we do this, would it be helpful to write it down, so we don’t forget,” I prompted.

“We could do that,” Rafael replied.

“Okay, what’s the first step?”

“Well, first I have to know what the problem is.”

“Good, write that down.”

“No, I mean, before I know what the first step is, I have to know what the problem is.”

I didn’t say a word, just raised my eyebrows. I watched as Rafael arrived at the first step. Identify the problem. There is a coaching point here. I could have told Rafael the first step, but that would play into the same dilemma he was having with his team. The coaching point is NOT to tell people what to do, but to ask questions, to move them to their own conclusions. This is the same process we use in Working Leadership, only there, you get to talk back to me.

Watching Your Mind Solve Problems

“What is the new response? When my team lands the problem on my desk, what is my new response?” Rafael asked.

“First, your response cannot be to give them the solution. That’s what has created this dependency in the first place,” I replied. “But you cannot leave them twisting in the wind. Your response has to be helpful.”

“What, do I give them hints, start a little guessing game?”

“Hardly, we need to create something solid, that you can consistently use, as a coaching tool. Tell me, Rafael, how do you solve problems?”

Rafael stopped. His eyes glanced at the ceiling. “I don’t know, I guess it depends on the problem. Sometimes, I just know the answer.”

“How do you know the answer?” I pushed.

“I don’t know, experience I guess, it just comes to me.”

“You think it just comes to you, but even if it seems instantaneous, your mind goes through a process to solve the problem. All we have to do is slow your mind down and watch what it thinks.”

Beginning, as a Coach

You may wonder where the stories for this blog come from. They come from you. But the stories in the blog are only one-sided, you miss the rich discussion attached to the real conversations. We created Working Leadership Online for you to specifically explore your management reality.

Since we began the program in February, we have had 89 Field Work Reports with 320 Comments posted. You see numbers. I see deep discussions and insights. I see people thinking through their management and leadership challenges.

Next week, July 6, we kick off our Summer Coaching Series. I would love to see you online. You can find out more by following this link.
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“It’s not the end of the world,” I said. “You have trained your team to let you solve every problem. And it will take time, but you can reverse the damage.”

Rafael smiled. “I am glad to know it’s not fatal. But how do I pull this off. They are still going to bring me their problems, I don’t see how I can stop that. And there are many problems they cannot solve. The team will still need me. I don’t see how I can get out of this spiral.”

“Don’t worry. It’s not as bad as tough love, though it will seem like it in the beginning. Your team will still bring their problems for you to solve, you just have to create a different response. A different response that is helpful. Your beginning, as a coach.”

“So, what is the new response?” Rafael asked.

Training the Team?

“You trained your team not to solve problems,” I stated flatly.

Rafael pushed against the table. There was a little teeny tiny vein in his forehead that was beginning to show. “By giving them the answer, I was training them not to solve problems? Ridiculous!”

“Say that again.”

“What? By giving them the answer, I was training them not to solve problems?” Rafael loosened his grip on the table. His head slowly moved from side to side. “So, it was me after all.”
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I would like to thank Jim Heller and his two TEC groups in Milwaukee for their kind hospitality last week as we explored the research of Elliott Jaques and his findings on Time Span. Elliott Jaques – Part II, is now available.

Running for the Answer

On July 6, Working Leadership Online begins its Summer Coaching Series. Here is the curriculum.

  • Jul 6 – Coaching – Bringing Value as a Manager
  • Jul 27 – Coaching Underperformance – Time Span and the Employment Contract
  • Aug 17 – Coaching High Performance – Time Span and Highest Capability

This nine week series is based on the research of Elliott Jaques and his findings on Time Span. Each participant who registers for the series will receive a complimentary copy of Catalytic Coaching, by Gary Markle. Register here.
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“What do you mean?” Rafael leaned forward. “If our customer has a problem, what am I supposed to do, ignore it?”

“You know better than that. You know the problem has to get fixed, but why do you think your guys, faced with a customer problem, always run to you for the answer?” I pushed the ball back in Rafael’s court.

“Well, it’s because I have a couple of decades of experience at this,” floated Rafael.

“No, try again,” I insisted. “Why does your team, faced with a problem, turn to you instead of solving it themselves?”

Rafael stopped. “This is a trick question, isn’t it?”

I raised my eyebrow.