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About Tom Foster

Tom Foster spends most of his time talking with managers and business owners. The conversations are about business lives and personal lives, goals, objectives and measuring performance. In short, transforming groups of people into teams working together. Sometimes we make great strides understanding this management stuff, other times it’s measured in very short inches. But in all of this conversation, there are things that we learn. This blog is that part of the conversation I can share. Often, the names are changed to protect the guilty, but this is real life inside of real companies.

Exactly What You Designed

“They just don’t get it,” protested Kyle. “Why are they so stupid?”

“Why are they so stupid? Or why are you so stupid for expecting them to get it?” I asked. Kyle did not expect my response and I could see him stiffen in the chair. He didn’t know how to react to the challenge, so he countered with a question.

“What do you mean?” he said, stalling for time. I was quiet. The seconds ticked by. Kyle finally broke the silence. “Okay, they are not stupid. I just wish they could be more productive, and solve problems better, work smarter.”

“You have exactly the kind of team you have designed,” I said. Kyle’s face lightened a bit.

“You know, you are probably right,” he replied. “So, how do I make it better? How can I improve the design?”

I waited. “It’s not a matter of improving the design. It’s a matter of improving the designer.”

Personal Connection

“So, knowing each team member’s name is not just a thing to do that seems nice?” I had been talking to Ernie about his team. Remembering names was serious business for Ernie.

“No, I mean, I am probably pleasant enough,” responded Ernie. “But being able to call someone by name gets their attention. I believe it actually changes the way they feel about themselves. And quite frankly, the way I feel about them has a lot less to do with their attitude than the way they feel about themselves.

“I can give my team a bunch of pep talks and motivational speeches, but nothing has the punch, nothing makes the connection more personal, than being able to call someone by name.”

He Cannot Hide

“So, knowing each person by name must create a warm and fuzzy feeling some people never get at work,” I said. I had been talking to Ernie about his team pictures collage in his office.

Ernie laughed. “Oh, it’s way more than that. Some of that sensitivity training stuff they send us through, would have you believe that it’s only important to establish a friendly relationship and get people to like each other. Like I want to win a popularity contest or something. But here is the real payoff.

“When a new team member suddenly realizes that I know he exists, that I can recognize him by name. And that a couple of times a week, I might come over and sit down next to him and strike up a short conversation, something else happens. Sure he may feel warm and fuzzy, but he also knows that he cannot hide. He knows that his productivity is important. He knows if he performs, he will receive some appreciation. He knows if he doesn’t perform, I am going to call him on it. He knows he is not a faceless line worker, but that I value his contribution each and every day.”

The Secret Collage

It didn’t take me long to notice something interesting in Ernie’s office. Posted over the side of his credenza was a collage of pictures, each with a person’s name. It wasn’t just five or six pictures, more like thirty-five or forty.

“Quite a display,” I said.

“Yeah, that’s my team,” Ernie responded with a smile.

“All those people directly report to you?” I asked.

“No, I have six supervisors in the mix, but that’s my team, forty-six people. In fact, I have two new guys right here.” Ernie showed me two new pictures, each with their name captioned at the bottom. “When someone starts on my team, we take a digital picture and I photoshop their name at the bottom. I stick it up here on my board, so I get used to the face and the name together. I gotta tell you. I used to be really bad at names, so this is my cheat sheet.

“What I really like to do is, wait a couple of days after someone starts on the line. They probably haven’t seen me up close since their orientation. I walk over, sit down next to them and I am able to call them by name. This place is so big, most people expect that I don’t know they exist, much less know their name.

“Every couple of days, I drop by and do the same thing again. I cannot tell you how important it is to be able to call someone by name.”

Will I Sleep Through It?

“What are we here for?” I started the meeting. It’s always an interesting question. Most people come to meetings without thinking about its purpose. Will it be informational? Will it be interesting? Will I sleep through it? Will it be meaningful? Will we accomplish anything of significance?

Most people just go to meetings.

What was the last meeting you went to, where something significant was accomplished? What was different about that meeting? What are the most important elements to make a meeting effective? Post a comment. -TF


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The Other Person’s Interests

I stepped down a short flight of stairs into the coffee shop. Small groups of people were huddled around an assortment of morning elixirs. This was definitely not Starbucks.

Gordon was already sitting at a table and I could tell he had done some thinking overnight. We had been talking about connecting the goals of the company with the unlikely topic of boats and fishing.

“I know I kind of laughed you off, yesterday,” Gordon started. “It sounded a little far fetched, but I started thinking about it and it began to make more sense.”

I poured some cream in my coffee. So far, I had not said a word.

“I remember a sales manager,” he continued. “Every Thursday morning, he would load up his two best salespeople and take them down to a boat dealer and they would spend an hour talking about boats. It was kinda funny, because the owner of the company found out and said the time would be better spent going over sales data and prospect lists.

“He didn’t press it though, because things began to happen, volume picked up, margins were holding. And every Thursday morning, the sales manager would take his guys down to the boat dealer.”

“Did anyone ever buy a boat?” I finally got a question into the conversation.

“Yeah, they all did.” Gordon laughed. “Well, except for the sales manager. Turns out, he didn’t care a thing about boats. I even asked him about it. He said the secret to being a manager is to always talk in terms of the other person’s interests.”


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Boats and Fishing

I was working with a group in New York today, in a sideline conversation of interest.

“I don’t understand,” Gordon said. “I explain the vision of the company, where we are going, the success we hope to achieve. The team shows some polite interest, but I just don’t see the enthusiasm. Maybe, I don’t have the right people on the team.”

“I am sure this is all very exciting for you,” I responded. “How did you make the connection for them?”

“What do you mean?” Gordon’s mood changed, almost suspicious.

“I mean, I know what’s in it for you,” I continued. “But what is in it for your team members?” Gordon almost answered, but stopped. His automatic response was interrupted.

“Well, they are mostly interested in boats and fishing. I am talking about the company,” he said.

“I understand.” I wasn’t in a hurry. “Gordon, if you could connect boats and fishing to the growth of the company, what would happen?”

He chuckled. “Connecting boats and fishing to the growth of the company? There would be no stopping us. But, boats and fishing don’t have anything to do with the company.”

“I understand. But if they did, what would be the impact on your company?” Gordon was beginning to get the drift. “What if you could talk in terms of what your team members want?” I closed my briefcase.

“I have one more day, here,” I said. “Let’s meet for coffee tomorrow morning and continue this.” -TF


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Not the Way I Learned It

Karl shook his head, laughing at my description. “No way,” he shouted. The rest of the class began to chuckle, a communal piling on.

“What?” I looked around the room. I know when people are laughing, that they get the joke. I know when people get the joke, learning happened.

“Here’s how you learned to use a spreadsheet,” I explained. “Your IT guy handed you a book and commanded you take it home. Reading cover to cover will make you an expert.”

Chortles and chuckle was all I got. Of course. “No one learned to use spreadsheet software by reading a book. You told the IT guy to take his book, and himself, and leave the room. By golly, you learned this software on your own, dinging at the keyboard, trial and error, you learned by doing.”

I stopped. The laughter turned to smiles, the room grew quieter.

“People learn in different ways. Some people learn best by doing. Yet most training seminars I attend are PowerPoint slides and a lecture. Tell me, how effective is the learning? How effective is the training that happens in your company?” -TF

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A Scary Conversation

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I could see by the look on her face that she was very uncomfortable with the discussion. As she raised her hand to speak, it was a cross between timid and bold opinion.

“I’m not sure about this exercise,” explained Anita. “It goes against everything we have learned in HR. I’m not sure you are supposed to know all this personal stuff about people.”

The exercise in the class was to conduct a one to one conversation with another person. It’s called Mineral Rights, adapted from Susan Scott’s Fierce Conversations. The point of the exercise is to have a conversation with another person at a deeper level than sports and weather.

“Anita, tell me,” I asked, “where do most team members fail us on the job? Is it their lack of technical skill, or is it connected to attitude, willingness or some personal issue that influences their job performance?”

Anita stopped. She knew the answer, but it was dead set against her HR training. Bottom line, it was a scary conversation. I continued.

“Anita, what is the most important thing for one of your supervisors to know about his team?” She was desperately trying to make this answer come from the textbook, but it was failing her. I was feeling impatient, so I kept rolling.

“Anita, on some of our crews, the most important thing for a supervisor to know, is who is going to show up for work today. Who is going to show up? Who is going to show up hung over? Who is fighting with his girlfriend? Who is having car trouble?

“On the flip side, it is important for the manager to know what makes his technician run up a ladder in 110 degree heat, on top of a roof, change out a compressor and then go downstairs and apologize to the store owner for taking so long.

“This has nothing to do with the technical side of air conditioning repair. And the manager is not going to find this out by reading a job resume. This stuff only comes out by talking, individually, on a personal level, about what really matters.”

I don’t think Anita ever got comfortable with the exercise that day, but she left the classroom a different person. -TF

Identifying the Deal Killers

“Alright, let’s take a vote,” Ralph directed. I was sitting in the back of the room. I watched the hands go up in favor of Ralph’s plan. There was no dissent. Meeting adjourned.

Ralph was proud, no opposition, he picked up his stuff and strutted out of the room. And that’s when the truth came out. It started as a whisper, a snide remark, and then the piling on began. As it turned out, no one was in favor of Ralph’s plan.

“What do you mean?” Ralph said as I settled into his office.

“I don’t think your plan has a chance for success,” I replied. “As you left the room, I got to thinking, wondering if your plan had covered all the bases, in fact, if it was even the right decision.”

“But, everyone voted,” Ralph protested.

I nodded. “Do you think voting is the best way to make a decision?”

“Hey, it’s how we elect a president?”

I smiled and repeated, “Do you think voting is the best way to make a decision?”

“Well, do you have a better way?” Ralph challenged.

“I was just looking at your four alternatives. You know, there were two things that were absolute deal killers and the one you picked doesn’t meet the criteria.”

“What do you mean?”

“Think about it this way, Ralph. Put up a big chart on the wall and make a quick list of all the things that absolutely, positively have to be a part of the solution. Deal killers. Then make a list of all the things that are not absolute, but would be really nice to have. Now you have two lists, absolutes and desirables.

“Take your four alternatives and put them up against the criteria and see how things shake out.”

Ralph didn’t say a word. His eyes got wide. I could see him mentally checking his quick list. “I think I need to bring the team back in the room. I think they voted for a mistake.”

I was ready to explain the process in more detail, but Ralph was already headed for the conference room. -TF


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