From the Ask Tom mailbag:
Question:
I am a new manager. I hold a weekly meeting that goes pretty well. We say the things that need to be said and make our plans, but the meetings seem to bomb at the end. They just stop. The energy in the room is flat. I tried to give a motivational rah-rah speech at last week’s meeting but it fell flat on its face. I wish I had kept my mouth shut. The meeting is missing something at the end. How can we finish on a high note?
Response:
Follow your own advice and keep your mouth shut. Unless you are one of the rare charismatic managers, your attempts to raise the energy level will feel contrived and pointless.
Why?
Because the energy is all coming from you. You need some help. Try the following exercise.
At the end of the meeting, distribute 3×5 index cards. Have everyone write down one action item they plan to do based on the meeting. Then make your way around the table, asking each team member, in turn, to publicly state their commitment to action. You will be amazed at the rise in energy as you adjourn the meeting.
This is no hollow rah-rah. The reason this works is because it is real and every person participates. -TF
We have similar meetings bi-weekly or less often. Most of the conversation seems to be between me and my boss, with my 3 reports generally giving 1 word answers or mumbling a few words here and there. I try to keep my mouth shut, but sometimes getting the reports to speak up is like pulling teeth.
I may try this suggestion, not necessarily the index cards, but a verbal committment.
Mike,
Thanks for your comment. The key IS the index cards. If you don’t use the index cards, you will continue to get mumbles. On the index card they don’t have to write more than a key word or a phrase, but that single act of writing clarifies the thoughts so they actually have something coherent to say.